On Warding Off The Pinch Of Lonesomeness

[while on Bainbridge Island last week]

Robert and I tend to live in the middle of nowhere.  One of my favorite things about living in the middle of nowhere is the distance I feel from the tumult and chaos of the world.  It’s just we, me, the dogs, the trees, the birds, the clatter of light reaching down from the heavens and star studded nights.  One of the things I dislike most about living in the middle of nowhere, besides the scant availability and sky high price of organic quinoa, is the geographical gaps, the yawning spaces between me and my families, between me and my dearest and most best friends.  They’re only a phone call away!  I can communicate with them any old time I choose, but I rarely get to commune with them, face to face, heart to heart, soul to soul and that’s the very sort of closeness that wards off the  sad pinch of lonesomeness.

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I was on a Daniel Day-Lewis kick this winter past and while watching  Age of Innocence, I was struck by a short scene that went rather  like this:

Newland Archer — “Aren’t you afraid of being alone?

Countess Olenska — “No, as long as my friends keep me from being lonely.

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SPOT ON!

My friends, near and far, no matter where they reside, guard me from lonesomeness and I them.  I ache for my far-away friends at times, wish them near to me, dream of them at night.  What was life like before these computers and telephones, when boys on ponies galloped the daily mail from place to place?  Now we are blessed with high-speed, silent and spooling lines of connectivity reaching out across the atmosphere in all directions, and still, and yet, there is no substitute for presence and the belongingness that  rings like a cheerful bell in shared spaces.

In the past two weeks, I have visited a best friend and stayed in her home just a short skip from the sea.  I have also hosted two dear friends in my own home and treasured the effects of their combined energies on my very soul and spirit.  This morning, I talked to another best friend by telly and I realized that simply having those kindreds in my life isn’t enough, I need to be with them, smoothed by them like the waves smooth the rocks where the water meets the land, I need to be in their presence, safe under their wings, where healing and and growth thrive.  I love my friends.  I love to have them in my life.  I love even more to hold them close, wrap my arms around them, wipe away their tears and echo back the curves of their smiles.  My friends have never been more important to me than now, in this very second, on this very day.

The good, rich love of my friends heals, amends, erases and makes up for all the times I have suffered unlove at the hands of women with hard hearts.  The gracious and merciful fire of my friends melts the ice and keeps me soft of heart and supple of soul.  I pray my tenacious love does the same for them.

[this week past, in the Methow Valley]

This morning, in the wake of my wonderful visits with my friends,  I took time to do some writing on the sunset deck while the morning was still cool.  I thought it important to write about all my best and dearest friends, list their strengths, the light I see them in, the light I see in them, the things that make them robust and wildly beautiful.  One by one, I concocted the definitions I hold loosely in my heart for my precious friends and I can’t wait to watch those definitions swirl, change and grow as the years fly by.  I love who they have been.  I love who they are.  I love who they are becoming.  I love the flexibility that comes with the knowing of them and the being known by them.  Because I love them, their transmogrifications are breathtaking, inspiring and affecting.  Because they are strong and full of light, I am attracted to them and driven to them.  I wish nothing more than to grow in grace and beauty with them, always, for the rest of my days.  They bring redemption to my life.  They bring calm to the storms.

What about you?  Do you live, most often, without the immediate comfort and company of your best friends?  How do you reach across the broadness of space and connect deeply and meaningfully, despite the distances?  What are the strongest, most beautiful things about your very favorite people — what drives you to them and tethers your heart to the bright of their souls?  What do you value most about your best friends?  Loyalty?  Steadfastness?  A sense of humor?

I look forward to reading what you have to share on this topic — don’t be shy!

Now the day is hot and I’m going to run to the lake for a swim and then sit in the shade beneath a kind tree while I do some sketching.  Be well you little beauties!  Bright shine your souls.

x

:::Post Scriptus:::

I am currently reading this book.  Have you read it?  It is written so magnificently, is rich with truths about human nature and the rhythm of the writing has really crept under my skin and crawled into my heart — I can practically hear the voice of John Ames as I read it.  It’s purely wonderful in every way.

Water

There’s nothing so fresh or wild as a mid-afternoon baptism.

In Conclusion

It feels so small to be this huge.

It feels so huge to be this small.

I weep for the beauty of things.  Isn’t it enormously  heartbreaking sometimes? I mean, the earth, creation, the glacial lakes with their impossible blueness, the night sky, the ice and snow in the cirques, the wind in the wheat, the wildflowers and sunshine, the flax and canola side by side…the pulse of the living and the dark of the dead and decayed…it overwhelms me.  I think there are times when I suddenly feel it all, all of it, like I’m wearing cosmic goggles and not a single atom or cell goes unnoticed, and so I cry.  So much beauty!  So little time.

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I’m so lucky to have called this very moment a homecoming.  In fact, I think I’m lucky to call the North Cascades home at all…they’ve put a spell on me.  I want to get homier with them.  Homier?  Yes.  Homier.  Oh…you know what I mean.

Also, a chiding is in order: if you are a resident of Washington, you should feel great shame if you’ve never driven the North Cascades highway up and down into Winthrop.  Shame on you.  Highway 20.  It’s calling your name!

More in a bit!  I have two beauties coming to stay for a few days and before they arrive I’ve got to give everything a spiffy-spiffering and mow 5 acres of lawn.  I also have some oceanic chit chat for you and some pretty images from my Puget Sound jaunt.  I can’t wait to share!  I missed you.

xx

On The Rhythm of Rest (and other things)

[While staying cool, over at the lake, with all the gals and guys this past weekend.]

Good morning you pretty little tiger lilies!

If you are situated in the interior West of North America, you’ll probably agree that it feels like someone flipped the summer switch into *on* position last week.  The heat came, the gardens are leaping, the deer are laying in the shade of the fruit trees during the blaze of the afternoon and it seems like each time I look over at the dogs, they’re passed out on the cool of the tiled floor in the sun rooms.  It’s been so hot that it’s been difficult for me to get any work done and for a while, I felt guilty about that, like I always do.  Why do I feel that way?  I think it can be very difficult for artists to unwind, to relax freely.  I always feel I should be working on something, carrying my momentum through another day, squeezing every particle of daylight out of every day — momentum is important to me, it takes much effort to start up once I have stopped.  I like to work every day.  I like to keep pace with the metronomes of my hammers, pencils and paintbrushes.  I believe this is one of the reasons I have always been a long distance runner, besides legs and lungs.  I like to find a beat and pound it out, up over the hills and dales, down through the coulees and across the creek beds.  I love the push and pull of air, sucking wind on the steep sections, steadying my heart rate on the flats, recovering my legs on the downhill slopes with short chop steps.  But even when I’m running, I don’t have a standardized pace.  I feel my body slow on the steep uphill climbs, I drop into a lower gear as my legs carry me upwards.  I fly on the flats.  I let the gravity pull me down the hills while my leg muscles recover from climbing.  Work is like that too.  Varied in pace.  It’s only natural.  So, you see, I have to remind myself, and believe with all my heart, that the rest has rhythm too, it isn’t a dead zone, a syncopation gobbling black hole.  It’s a necessary change of speed and it is healthy to take it when I can.  Robert has helped me with this, a lot, over the past two years.  He is so much better at recognizing my fatigue, naming it and helping me to step away from work when I need to, and even preventing fatigue by naming days off for me or sending me out into the wilds to wander, brush up against nature and be filled.

He jumped a fire yesterday and will be out for a few days (or maybe weeks or months, who knows), but before he left, he told me, “Jillian, it’s too hot for you to work.  You go ahead and find something else to do and enjoy yourself.  I think I’m going to get a fire.  It’s my time to work now.”  He did get a fire and I have gone gently with myself here.  Tending all my chores in an unhurried manner and still managing to do a bit of work in Miss Maple in the early mornings and evenings, before the sun turns that Airstream of mine into a toaster oven.  I don’t have a choice really, it’s too hot to do much else, but I do have a choice regarding how I view this pace and the new structure of my days during this atrocious heat.  It requires rewiring my mind a bit, but I’m doing just fine.  My eyes are clear and I don’t feel annoyed by circumstance.

That said, I’m leaving for the Puget Sound today.  It’s just a blip of a drive, up to the top of the North Cascades and then I’ll run like a river down to the sea.  I’m going to land directly in the arms of a girlfriend I love and cherish.  Being by her side for a few days is going to be so good for my soul, for my me.  Additionally, I’ll be doing a bit of beach combing, well, a lot of beach combing, in the cool of the ocean air.  Pray I find moon snail shells the size of my head, talk directly with a cluster of orcas and rendezvous with a family of otters while I’m collecting sand dollars.  Doesn’t that sounds spiffy?

Go gently this week, dear friends.  I’ll be thinking of you!

All love,

The Plume

More of the same. But different.

[sterling, 23 karat gold, lapis lazuli]

[sterling, 23 karat gold, aquamarine]

[sterling, 23 karat gold, aquamarine]

You know, all of this crazy lichen business began when I found a flippery and floppery, arm sized chunk of the stuff at Feather Beach on Diablo Lake here in the North Cascades of Washington.  By the way, Feather Beach is what I call that beach, so don’t look for it on a map.  Regardless, we’d all be bored to death like a handful of  blasé, simmering and simpering dumplings if this series was repetitive and going nowhere but I’m glad to say it’s going somewhere and I don’t feel I’ve reached the end of the line yet!  Each new design grows in trembling leaps and bounds every time I sit down to create and I like that growth very much.  It’s exciting to experience the snowballing of an idea, repeatedly, and I’m so thankful that I have enough time in the studio to really explore lichen forms as much as I want to.  You know, this entire series really began with the enameled Host Necklaces I worked on a couple of winters ago.  That series (and this one, continuing) was all about  human symbiosis — choosing what we host in our life with regards to where and what we pour our energy into, and what we receive energy from.  I think all the lichen work I’m doing is still attached to that very same personal delving I was doing and am doing now, regarding how I spend my energy and what/who I allow to attach to myself and feed off my energy.  There you have it.  I don’t always give you the roots of the reasons behind my work but energy expenditure is really on my mind lately and so, I find it trickling into my work.

In other news, I found a partial fawn skeleton while running the mountains and have been boiling an entire spine segment all day long in the kitchen.  It reeks something awful and Robert is not surprised with my kitchen activity or amused, to say the least.  Good wives make dinner (or some such thing).  I boil bones — they are not good for eating.  It seems like such a morbid, gross activity, to have scraped the last of the tendons and sinew from vertebrae and pelvic bones with a paring knife in the kitchen, but it’s what I’ve been doing.  I’d like to make a vertebrae mobile.  They’re so white and delicate when they’re stripped down to their barest.  I like to find bits of animal while out in nature — it reminds me how I was fearfully and lovingly designed and knit together in my mother’s womb.  We all have the same things, you know, beating hearts, warm flesh, kidneys, brains, fluttering lungs, and thin, wavering strands of DNA that tie everything together like ribbons on Christmas packages.

It’s Friday!  What the heck do you have planned for the weekend?  I’m planning on working and spending the hottest parts of the afternoons at a lake in my sea foam green bikini, perhaps with a cold beer nearby and some guacamole and chips on hand.  It was so hot here today, I thought I might perish.  This body was meant for winter.

Have a beautiful and restful weekend, wee birds.  I’ll see you in the week to come.

xx

:::POST SCRIPTUS:::

This is for waggling about.  Turn it up.